Six short video modules. Approximately 20 minutes each. Self-paced and yours to keep, with somatic practices embedded throughout, not bolted on at the end.
Investment: £33
There is a story running inside you.
It is not always loud. It doesn’t always announce itself. It whispers: There’s something wrong with me. I should be further along by now. I need to try harder. I’m too much. I’m not enough.
Maybe you go quiet and small when it shows up.
Maybe you get busy so there's no space to feel it.
Maybe you shrink and hide, or over-give, or people-please your way back into feeling acceptable.
Maybe it runs on a loop inside you, even when nothing on the outside would tell anyone that's what's happening.
Maybe you've noticed it most recently—in a relationship, at work, or in your body, and you've found yourself thinking: I do all of it. I'm pushing myself, going quiet, fawning, going invisible, but I don't know how else to be.
That feeling has a name, and it is not the truth.
"When I started listening I felt myself releasing a big sigh, like Charli had named something I had been trying to. I hadn't realised that underneath all of it was shame. From the first part I'm understanding that there isn't anything wrong with me, my nervous system adapted to keep me safe. I've just carried that with me since." ~ Zoe
"This programme truly justifies your investment of time and energy. Charli leads the way with such care that you feel supported even as you confront difficult realities. It is an experience that both affirms and transforms your life.” ~ Hazel
You have been swimming in the wrong waters.
The anxiety. The burnout. Your body that won't cooperate. The relationships that keep playing out the same way. The inner critic that never, ever seems satisfied. The relentless search for something: confidence, certainty, or self-belief, that always feels just out of reach.
You've paid too much attention to the narrator in your head.
You've tried to fix it from the outside.
You've become embarrassed by the shame itself—so you over-give, people-please, and compensate—which leads to more rejection, more shame, and the cycle repeats itself.
This is not a motivation problem. It is not a mindset problem. It is not a willpower problem.
It is SHAME.
This isn't the hot-faced shame of a single humiliating moment, It is something deeper and more quiet. It is the unseen filter through which you view your entire life, and it becomes the lens through which you see yourself and the water that you're swimming in, becoming so familiar you've stopped noticing you're wet.
And here is the thing about that kind of shame: you cannot think your way out of it.
What shame actually covers:
Video 1: The Waters
You're Swimming In
What shame actually is, where it comes from, and why you've been swimming in it without knowing.
The difference between guilt and sham: guilt says I made a mistake, shame says I am a mistake.
How it was encoded in your female nervous system before you even had words.
Why it feels like the truth.
And the first small practice of asking your body: What have you been carrying?
Video 2: It Lives
In Your Body
Why this can't be thought or talked away.
The physiology of shame: the freeze response, the posture, the jaw, the shallow breath, one foot on the accelerator and one foot on the brake.
Why highly functional women can be living in chronic freeze—going to work, running businesses, raising children, holding everything together—while something underneath never gets to fully exhale.
What chronic shame does to your health: the inflammation, the hormonal disruption, the fatigue, the autoimmune conditions, the heaviness that no amount of rest seems to touch.
So many women arrive at this programme via a doctor's waiting room.
"I made an appointment at the doctors 2 weeks ago to ask them to do a full bloods and hormone check as something has to be wrong with me. I've got every symptom you discussed and more, slowly getting worse from a year ago." ~ Caley
What Caley didn't yet know was that chronic shame has a physiology. It lives in her body as inflammation, hormonal disruption, fatigue, digestive issues, and autoimmune conditions.
The female nervous system held in long-term freeze doesn't just affect how you feel emotionally. It affects how you feel physically. That appointment wasn't wrong, but the answer she was looking for wasn't in her bloods.
Video 3: Seeing
the Invisible
How shame actually shows up in your daily life — because it rarely looks like what you'd expect: it's not dramatic humiliation; it's more like going quiet, getting small, staying away, keeping busy so you don't have to feel it, going invisible, swallowing your truth, or running the loop on the inside while looking fine on the outside.
This video helps you begin to see it, and in seeing it, creates the first small space between you and it.
Video 4: Bringing
It Into The Light
Why isolation makes shame worse, and why connection is not a luxury, it is medicine for the female nervous system.
How oxytocin, your primary regulator as a woman, heals what shame has contracted.
Why being seen and witnessed by other women—without having to perform or pretend you're holding it all together—gives your nervous system new evidence of a different reality.
What becomes possible when shame is shared and met rather than suppressed and hidden.
Why self-compassion cannot be forced; it can only emerge when enough safety is present in the body.
"This morning I listened to the second module… The somatic practice towards the end led to a long release of tears and a softening." ~ Sally
Video 5:
Uninverting Shame
Here is the piece most programmes miss. Shame often covers something older, something wiser, something more alive — and underneath it, very often, is life force. Eros.
And underneath that, anger, not rage or aggression, self-protection. The healthy capacity to say no, stop, enough, that isn’t okay, that crossed a boundary.
Most of us were taught that this energy was wrong, unladylike, or too much, and so it got turned inward — and that is the anger that has been eating away at you.
This video is about beginning, very gently, to reclaim it.
Video 6:
The Unshame
What begins to change. Not the absence of discomfort — shame may still show up — but it no longer runs the show unconsciously. It is no longer the water you're swimming in.
You begin to feel more choice, more self-trust, more aliveness, and less explaining or abandonment of yourself. Less hypervigilance to everyone around you. You become ungaslightable to yourself, and therefore to anyone.
You begin building your life from your actual self: from desire, from truth, from your feminine essence that has been there beneath the criticism and the perfectionism and the armour all along, waiting for enough safety to emerge.
What this programme is not.
This is not a quick fix. There is no moment where you do the work and never feel shame again.
There is no bypassing here, no toxic positivity and definitely no rushing.
The feminine doesn't rush, and a female nervous system needs time, gentleness, and lived experience — not more information — to create lasting change.
What UNSHAME offers is a beginning. A new kind of relationship with your own experience.
The capacity to see the pattern, name it, and create enough space between you and it to have a choice — and that pause, that space, is where everything starts to shift.
What do the women who have already done this work say? That once they witness it — really see it — the shame feels lighter, less urgent, less dense. That their voice begins to re-emerge. That they feel reminded to be brave again.
That is what becomes possible.
Who this is for:
This programme is for you if you recognise yourself in any of this:
You go quiet and suppress it, or get busy to avoid the feelings, or people-please your way back to feeling okay — and the loop just keeps going.
You have paid too much attention to the narrator in your head, and you are exhausted by her.
You carry an inner critic that is relentless, especially in certain phases of your cycle.
You have physical symptoms you can't fully explain — the fatigue, the inflammation, the digestive issues, the hormonal chaos — and suspect there is something deeper underneath.
You have spent years being the strong one, the capable one, the one who holds it all together — and you are tired.
You find yourself shrinking, going invisible, swallowing your truth in relationships or at work.
You suspect that what you're carrying isn't entirely yours — that some of it came down the line.
You are a coach, healer, or practitioner of any kind who wants to understand your own shame before you can truly meet it in the women you work with.
You are ready — not for a quick fix, but for something real.
You might be wondering:
"I've tried everything. Why would this be any different?"
Because everything you've tried has probably been working from the mind down. This works from the body up. And that is a completely different conversation. This is not about learning more, thinking differently, or trying harder. It's about returning to yourself at the level where the shame actually lives — in your female nervous system, in your body, in the story that was written before you had words. That's why it's different.
"Is £33 really going to change anything?"
I made it £33 because I didn't want the price to be the reason you didn't do this. What I can tell you is that understanding your own shame — really understanding it, in your female body — is the foundation of everything. Your relationships, your health, your work, your sense of self. You can spend thousands more on surface-level fixes, or you can start here, at the root. This is the root.
TESTIMONIAL BOXES:
About Charli
I spent the majority of my adult life not knowing I was living in shame.
I was a mental health nurse and addiction specialist. I set up the addiction service at Addenbrooke’s Hospital in Cambridge in my early 30s, by myself. And then I quit and built a successful fitness business. From the outside, two versions of a successful life. Inside, the same woman, swimming in the same waters.
I had created two versions of myself: Charlotte, the Fruit Loop, and Charli — the good girl, the capable one, the one who held everything together. Until I couldn’t anymore.
When my father died, something cracked open. I sold everything. And slowly, slowly, in that dismantling, the real work began — understanding my female nervous system, understanding the stories I had inherited, and learning, for the first time, to come home to my body.
By that point, I had been diagnosed with CPTSD and chronic anxiety. I had blepharitis, IBS, Dermotillomania, and hair loss. My body had been speaking for years. I just didn’t have the language for what it was saying.
I would often Google: “How do I stop being sick and tired of being sick and tired?”
I tried everything, and in my desperation, I gave £50,000 to a coach who, with the best will in the world, couldn’t help me, because we weren’t working where the problem actually lived.
What finally helped was returning home to my body. That journey has changed everything for me, and it has become the foundation of everything I now share with women — in my online Circle, on my retreats in Crete, Spain and Norfolk, and my one-to-one work.
I have worked with women for over 30 years, and I have never, not once, met a woman who isn’t carrying this. Not one.
That tells me everything about how widespread, how ancestral, and how cultural this is.
I made this programme affordable on purpose, because this work belongs to every woman, not just those who can invest in a high-ticket frame.
You are worthy of understanding yourself this deeply.
Investment: £33
Six focused video modules. Approximately 20 minutes each.
Yours to keep and to move through at your own pace.
There is no prize for finishing quickly.
Let the words land in your body rather than rushing to understand them with your mind.
Begin today to start understanding and giving language, and relief, to something you've felt for a long time.
Questions? Come and find me in Wild Awakening: Understanding Your Feminine Nature,
my free Facebook community, or whatsapp me directly on here.
